Ignore the Internet and Information and Communication Technology (ICT) and Watch Your Life, Your Marriage and Your Family Under Relentless Attack and Defenceless

Have you been intentional about thinking through an Internet and Information & Communication Technology (ICT) Strategy for yourself, your marriage,  your family? In other words have you decided how you will use the Internet & ICT in a way that is personally healthy (mentally & physically), safe and serves you in a good way? Have you had an official conversation with your spouse and your children about the marriage and family values that will guide the use of the Internet & ICT by each of you, and in a way that will strengthen your marriage and family union? If not, I urge you to make those conversations and related decisions a TOP PRIORITY for today, and no later than this week.

Whether you are a heavy Internet &/or ICT user or not, is not relevant, because even if you are not a heavy user, it is almost a given that you are connected to someone who is, and that person’s Internet &/or ICT use is and will impact your life for good or bad. The ‘realest’ example I can share is that all motorists and innocent pedestrians are at risk to the choices of those of us who use the cell phone and text while driving. If you say “Oh I can handle it?” or “I hardly use the internet so I needn’t worry” or “I am too old for all that,”  or “I don’t know how to control my child’s /teenager’s use of the Internet &/or ICT” or “I believe my children / teenagers are old enough to do the right thing; I trust them so I don’t need to be vigilant,” …that is not helpful… if…you want to be safe or want your marriage & family to be safe. The Internet &/ICT are like fire and water, they provide warmth and relaxation and sustain life one minute, but if the user is un-informed, fire and water just as easily destroys the next minute. It is knowledge that is the referee. Without that referee here are a few of the risks:

  • Introduction of addictive behaviours to children & adolescents
  • Costly time wasting
  • Low academic performance
  • Pornography addiction in children and adults
  • Marital affairs
  • Breakdown in interactions and communication in family and marriages
  • Loss of sleep
  • Loss of life or serious injury
  • Disclosure of confidential information

Let’s face it, most of us would not knowingly expose ourselves, our family members or persons we care about to any of the risks listed above. Yet if we are not intentional and educated about the Internet & ICT and have a survival strategy, then we are doing just that – exposing self and loved ones to danger while remaining defenceless.

Below I share a number of links that will give you information on the risks that the Internet & ICT bring to the human experience. The good news is that the links also contain information on how to use Internet & ICT healthily and safely. It is a lot of information and I have tried to segment it so that you can go straight to the topics that are most relevant to you. Don’t attempt to read it all in one go. I recommend that you print or revisit and read the articles a little at a time and discuss them with your spouse, your children, and your friends. Let the information help you decide on a personal or family Internet & ICT strategy that works best for the dynamics of your household. At the end of this post there are links that will provide definitions on popular terms such Internet, ICT, Facebook, Twitter and Social Media. Overall, you will find that there is information here related to every constituent whether the individual, the parent, or the child. It is telling as to the reach of the Internet & ICT into our lives. We treat it casually and without an intentional Internet & ICT survival strategy to our peril.

Threat to Family

Preparing Your Child for the Online World

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/protecting_your_family/preparing_your_child_for_the_online_world.aspx

Family Safety Resources

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/protecting_your_family/articles/family_safety_resources.aspx

Protecting Your Teen from Pornography

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/popups/media_player.aspx?ShowPath=Focus%20on%20the%20Family%20Daily&broadcastDate=2010-10-19

Family Guide to the Internet

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/entertainment/mediawise/family-guide-to-the-internet.aspx

Threat to Personal and Financial Security

5 Hidden Dangers of Facebook

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/05/08/earlyshow/saturday/main6469373.shtml

Threat to Life

 AT&T Documentary: Don’t Text While Driving

http://wisdomatwork.wordpress.com/2011/01/14/att-dont-text-while-driving-documentary/

Statistics & Facts About Distracted Driving

http://www.distraction.gov/stats-and-facts/

Threat to Marriage

Past Loves and Facebook: To Connect or Not to Connect

http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=29039

Is Your Cell Phone Impeding Your Relationship

http://lifegems4marriage.com/2010/04/27/is-your-cell-phone-impeding-your-relationship/

Unplug Your Marriage

http://www.marriagetoday.com/unplug-your-marriage/

 

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What is ICT?

http://searchcio-midmarket.techtarget.com/sDefinition/0,,sid183_gci928405,00.html

What is the Internet?

http://www.centerspan.org/tutorial/net.htm

What is Social Media?

http://webtrends.about.com/od/web20/a/social-media.htm

What is Facebook?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook

What is Twitter?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twitter

Proverbs 25: 28

28 Like a city whose walls are broken down
   is a man who lacks self-control.

New International Version 1984, ©1984 (NIV1984)

 

May there be wisdom at work in you.

~Cheryll

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4 thoughts on “Ignore the Internet and Information and Communication Technology (ICT) and Watch Your Life, Your Marriage and Your Family Under Relentless Attack and Defenceless

  1. Cheryll, this is a comprehensive article that should have everyone examining their role and responsibility as it pertains to the topic discussed. Instead of ‘hoping’ that our children &/ spouse are ‘doing the right thing’, we should initiate the discussion using biblical doctrine and available statistics. The term ‘internet protocol’ should be on the forefront of the discussion.

    Thanks for again selecting a relevant topic, that if not addressed proactively can lead us down a sinful and devastating path.

  2. This matter of pornography is one that really burdens me. As I listened to the broadcast on “Protecting Your Teen from Pornography”, I cannot help but think, “there goes I but for the grace of Almighty God”.
    We must be intentional in our prayers on this matter and also deliberate in calculating a course of action for our children and young people. And just in case there’s anyone thinking that this does not apply because they don’t have children – think again! The impact on social behaviour affects every one of us…from time wasting and insecurities to rape and murder. The link below is a series of articles that provides us with more info on, and hope for the addict of pornography http://www.focusonthefamily.com/lifechallenges/love_and_sex/pornography.aspx
    There are ALWAYS consequences for ignoring God’s law. God help us!

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